The skills of good communication

So what exactly is good communication or who is an example of a great communicator?  Can anyone learn the skills of good communication? Who can you think of that is a great communicator?

That’s easy. You only need to think of a moment last year that you were totally involved in the communication. You may have been moved to tears, or got excited, or became angry together with the people who sent the message.

How does one create good messages and conversations, speak clearly, and listen well in the space of all the messages around us? How can writers produce and design great content to cut through the clutter to reach those receivers you want? How do you get people to respect and trust and like you? 

The first step is to learn what the skills of good communication are. And then you start applying them. You will still have stronger points and weaker ones, but you can now work on your better skills.

Not so long ago, experts said that we were living in the Age of Information. Now many believe that we live in even another phase. Some say it is the Age of Innovation; others say it is the Age of Experience. There are some who talk about the Age of Design, the Age of Technology and the Digital Age. Some authors even say that we are in The Age of Creativity, and Einstein would have a good laugh about his wisdom. Whatever we call it, humans need to communicate. 

Good communication makes people happier and more productive

I think we live in the Best Time of Communication ever.

Keep in mind that humans cannot exist without communicating. Just as you cannot stop breathing, you can also never stop communicating. Even if you are asleep, your face, body posture and sounds will tell others if you have a good or bad sleep. 

But, you will say, if I cannot NOT communicate anyway, why must I pay attention to improving my communication? It is what it is, not? We all have certain jobs, hobbies, and types of sports we like. You probably learned all of this – it wasn’t just there. You studied, read, practiced, exercised till you got it better. 

There are just so many benefits to effective and good communication. Your relationships will improve, your own inner dialogue may change, you will be more relaxed in groups and at social events, and your career will be more successful if you communicate well. Communication problems cause a lot of misery, sadness and conflict.

So you will say: but if I cannot NOT communicate, why should I bother? Many say that they cannot change; they have been born shy and introverted. The happier ones speak loud, scream and jump when they communicate. But really, do not believe for one moment that good communicators are born, period. We all learn how to communicate from and with our families, culture, friends, reading and the media. When one knows what good communication looks like, anyone can work from there.

We can all “do good communication”

Most of our communication today is “channeled” (or mediated) through mobile phones, computers, email, social media, messaging, texting and the traditional media such as film, television, radio, newspapers, and magazines.  All these messages lead to overload, communication fatigue, and misunderstandings. We are unhappy and angry and frustrated because our communication fails. But great communication and writing are within your own head and hands. Best is, it makes you tingle because you know that you and the other person “connect”.

Bad communication leaves us ineffective, unhappy and alone, even sick; it bothers us and destroys many relationships. We always know when we a relationship is in trouble, or when an argument causes a breakup.

 

Hey, what are you saying?

 

Good communication is exactly like learning how to ride a bicycle, or drive a car, or play a sport. It is like it is with two people who speak the same language. Ineffective communication is literally when one person speaks Russian, and another speaks Spanish. You think that cannot be improved? Of course it can: one just needs to learn the basics of the other language. Or make a lot of steady eye contact. Or touch a person in a respectful and considerate manner.